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Why we should not use the word – “Hate”?


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Hate is a very strong word and shouldn’t be used as often as we do. We have to understand that hate can be very demeaning and hurtful. Hate is a strong feeling which not only can cause harm to others but also harms us on a intellectual level. Hate can lead to resentment and other negative feelings. People who are very volatile emotionally, generally end up using the this word. What causes us to say the word?

We have to understand that, hate is an emotion, just like any other but it is the ultimate level to the negative pile. Let’s look at it this way, the process to getting to hating something starts from disagreement to disliking to irritation to finally hatred. So there are different sub levels within these levels also. We have to understand that, we usually skip or consider all these phases in fraction of seconds and jump to the conclusion by saying that you hate something.  What we have to consider is that before even saying the word, we can prevent us from going that extent. Firstly, people don’t realise that most of the time they don’t mean it, but still say it. Secondly, most of the time even before we get to that word, we can change the consequences.

Having being a nay say-er myself, I have been a part to adverse consequences just because of using wrong words at wrong times. By saying that, “I hate that” makes us judgemental on things which we may or may not know. I personally believe that, it eats a part of you whenever you say the word and a time comes when you realise that all that is left in you is nothing but hatred. You become more arrogant and  less agreeable to anybody.

The phrase, “Prevention is better than cure” comes handy here to understand that we can prevent us from getting completely empty and filled by only hatred.
For a starter,
·        If you don’t like anything, try changing it or making it the way you find suitable. I know this won’t work on many of the things but it might work for few small things.
·        If you can’ change it, then try avoiding it, or stop let it effecting you. One thing we all have to understand, that, every small thing or every other person should not disturb our state of calmness just because that thing or person doesn’t behave according to you. One should not make oneself vulnerable.
·       If you can find a way to solve issues, which lead to dissatisfaction, than try to do it. Finding a better path or middle path to difficult solutions helps to reduce disturbance.
·       If there is someone else who have as an negative feeling for you than, atleast try to confront them and solve issues. You never know, what might work to improve your social relations.
So, let’s face it, each time when we use the “hate” word makes us a little empty inside and fills it with hatred and negative vibrations, which has harmful affect on our behaviour as well as emotions. Speaking of which stay tuned for my next blog for more about intellectual vibrations and how are we connected with them.

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