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Age is not a measure for Maturity.


Maturity

We don’t get maturity with age, maturity is a choice. Its not something which we can inculcate within the stipulated period of time or with how many number of years we have lived. It comes with a decision, with a level of understanding of human behaviour and emotion. Maturity is something which is most required but only few have it, and those who possess it deals with less problems in life.



Maturity which is also stated as adulthood is oftenly mistaken with the age. For example, if a person is of 20 years of age then he/she is expected to behave maturely. The most common statement we all must have heard in our lives during our educational era, mostly our teachers or mentors say to us, that “ behave like a mature person, you are a grown up now.” What is to be like a mature person? And does all grown ups are mature enough to be able to deal and handle every situation is a certain manner which the world sees as a “mature way”?

Starting with the first area, what is maturity? If looked up in a dictionary or Google, it is stated that - the quality of behaving mentally and emotionally like an adult, a very advanced or developed form or state. So even in the meaning itself we can see that maturity is adjoined with terms like adulthood. But I beg to differ on this point that maturity is a subject of adulthood. I consider maturity to be a choice which all of us have at any point of age. To support my belief I will give an example of a child whose parents are divorcees, he never saw his father as he was too young to even recognize, when his parents broke up. But he never asked his mother or anybody else in the family about his father or he was or where he is, because he knew that if he would have asked it then it might hurt his mother in ways which cannot be explainable. So he always kept it to himself. So isn’t the kid a mature person who is way younger than any adult of teenager but more mature than any of them? And there are many such incidents or live examples which contrast the belief that maturity comes with age.

I agree to the statement where it says that maturity comes from being a very advanced or developed form of being. That is true. When a person is very developed and understands the emotions of other people then only he can act like a mature person. And it is not necessary that only an adult can be developed or capable to understand others, it can be 7 years old kid also.
“'Age' is the acceptance of a term of years. But maturity is the glory of years.”
Martha Graham.

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