Pain & Hard times

Pain & Hard Times

Life is journey and you have to keep going. In reality there is no Goal or Destination you can reach in the end of this journey. The only destination is death. But is doesn't mean that we cannot live our lifes to the fullest. We are brought up in such a manner that we tend to believe certain things. Even though those perceptions or norms are not valued to derived by us, we blindly believe them. One of such view of the crowd is that good times and bad times are temporary in nature and its better to leave the hard times on its own as time heals everything. But does time really heals everything or is it the people who heal things?

Pain and hard times make you suffer, and most of the time people are unable to handle that. So why is pain so destructive? It all leads to our own self, one can make or destroy oneself. If a person has a wound, he won't leave it by it self to heal because in that way it may heal or the situation may worsen. Similarly, if you leave your pain and hard time as it is, it will worsen. People get agitated, defensive and broken during such periods. The life seems full of misery as life becomes difficult. So what is that we can do to come out of the hard times or pain?

Detachment from the cause. Simple line but powerful enough to counter the pain. Attachment leads to addiction and when that attachment breaks you get completely destroyed as you were addicted to that thing. Hence, leading to depression, sorrow, and pain. We have to understand that nothing in the world is eternal, except love, but apart from it nothing is. And people don’t understand or understand this, but by then it gets too late. Not getting attached easily or detaching easily is an ability which few of us possess. And the solution to pain and hard times is detachment, as long as you don’t let it go it will continue to make you suffer. So learn to let it go.

Your temperament is another tool to remove the hard times or make it less hard. But not all of us have it and the percentage is even lesser than those who have the ability to detach themselves from the root cause. Your temperament decides how you will react and how easily can you come out of your pain. A calm and composed person will get hurt at some point of his life but he will remain calm and try to find the solution to it or work to remove the cause from his life. Keeping it in reality, as most people don’t, these people who are composed will look ahead of time and ask themselves that what was the reason and try to mend their ways around it and prevent them from happening again in the future. They will concentrate more on the solution rather than the problem.

Thus, being inactive won’t push away your problems or hard times from you, in fact it will create more pain. Nothing heals on it self, we have to put ourselves together and rise from the abyss like a phoenix. We have to put all our efforts in curing our self as we are our own problem and solution. Our mind is capable of unimaginable things. Life is like a hard earned money and pain and hard times are like unnecessary expenses, it hurts when it occur but only we can stop it.