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FAITH We have to put our faith to use in many different areas and it’s the first thing that gets berated. Faith is a small word but has the power to move mountains and make people fall for another person. But do we really understand the true meaning of faith? Do we use the word appropriately in our life? And how does the word affects the natural course of your life. If we look into the meaning of the word, faith, it implies a complete trust and confidence in someone or something or a strong belief in God or in the doctrines of any religion.   Hence, faith is the important in every relationship or any religion. Keeping religions aside, I’m here to talk about the fact that faith plays the most important part in any relationship. Whether parent and child relation or girlfriend and boyfriend or husband and wife relations, all are based on the pillars of trust and trust and confidence builds ultimately to “faith”. So if we look into patching things up in any broken re...

  Personal Agenda Everybody has a very active mind which generates and processes many thoughts every seconds.   And among those thoughts there is always one or few personal agendas which are kept hidden to themselves. People always keep it secret because they don’t trust others with their own thoughts and they try to keep it this way also because they think if anybody knows about it then they might start judging you even before they try to understand you. I have just taken a few things from here and there and while writing this I discovered few things about myself as well, as again life is a journey of self-realisation. Again I want to share a piece of my mind and it does not apply that everybody has the same features that I am talking about. Coming back to the topic, one of the main things that I have noticed is that people allow thoughts to enter. People don’t just think of doing something in a moment. Everybody has two options, either to do it or to not to do it....

Perception Perception or the way you see the world around you is the most creative power of human beings. We are the only ones who can view an object in more than one ways. Not in the different angles but different perceptions. Only humans can perceive differently than the rest of its species. Unlike any other living being.   And the people don’t realise this power of theirs and use it every single day. Perception changes everything, right from the way you see things, believe things or even trust issues. It’s the perception that creates the illusions and personalities of each person. They create the bubble around them and which sometimes is hard to penetrate and hence making them cynical and different from the rest of the people. The most mysterious and awkward thing is that the world senses this cynicism and treats it absurdly and in the most unimaginable way ever. In lay man terms, the world senses your fear and exploits it. And that my friends are the way of th...

Passer-Bys Our life is a journey and we are the travellers, we all can agree on this. But we all have to agree the point as well that the passer-bys also affect our journey of life and can change your paths in ways one cannot imagine. They happen to come into life just when you don’t expect them. All we can say is when you meet a stranger and your paths in life intersect our fates intersect too. And having all those interactions with passer-by’s your life changes around them as well. This is one of the most beautiful woven thread of the life by the nature. I believe that these passer-bys effects the way we live and how much they can change your everyday day-to-day as well. If we speak about the them in the true sense of their importance in our life then we already know that they bring the twist in life like every great mystery has a plot which is built up but unexpectedly comes a twist, same happens with our life with passer-bys. They act like a secret ingredient of ...

FAME Fame is the outcome of all the hard work and time and patience which one commits. Fame comes with and only with dedication towards your work. None becomes famous without giving everything. And I have read and heard about many famous personalities, who tell their tales of journey towards the fame. Everyone story has one thing in common, that is, that all of them didn’t quit even if they faced failures and were 100% dedicated towards their work. I am not here to speak about the ways to be famous or how one becomes famous. Instead, I’m here to bring out or discuss the about the fame and its good side as well the bad side. Basically, more about the dark side of the fame. So what is fame? The answer lies in the word- famous, but fame for different person is different. For one it can be just getting richer and celebrity status, for someone it may be recognition due to his work in any respective field, and for someone it may be just be able to influence a crowd.   Lucky ...

Social erosion Unlike soil erosion, which is removal of the fertile layer of soil due to external factors, social erosion is removal of the good and happiness inside us due to the outside factors. The little part inside us which keeps us motivated for being happy and carefree about the outside world dies slowly when someone around acts like pollutant by being a complete demotivational. Telling things which you often don't realise but when you do you can't stop thinking about it. The most outrageous fact is that when any such thing happens then one starts questioning its own existence and becomes a part of the dull world of unfaithfulness, disturbance and grief. The self is strong enough to handle one or two such person but when the intensity rises, it cause erosion effect within us and leaves us bare. Such people who caused this unwanted situations are the main cause for social erosion.  Social erosion, is according to me, when you loose a part of yourself and turn dark....

FRIENDS Yesterday, I was watching a movie called, Tag , which was about a group of friends, anyways, the movie touched my heart and made me realise that how important your friends can be in your life. We tend to forget the importance and place of friends in your life in this hectic lifestyle. We have to understand who matters the most and who doesn’t.  We have to prioritize our work schedule as well as our social life. Optimising the social life is equally important as optimising work space. Life is highly influenced and affected by the group of company we keep. There being both positive and negative side to everything, friendship also has its pros and cons. I have seen how people help their friends in need and do anything they can, but also I have seen how a friend can destroy just because they have a grudge and doesn’t show it to you. People wearing mask while being a friend is the worst thing which one could possibly experience. People have to understand whom to cho...

VIBES Speaking of vibrations, in terms on science, is nothing but a particle that vibrates to and fro in a same position. But speaking in terms or in relation to us, humans, in intellectual level, vibrations are what we emit from our personality. How does it affect us? And what should we do in order to make use of these vibrations in a positive manner? Well many of us believe, or from where I come, that our soul is very powerful. It is a form of energy and if that energy is channelized in doing good then if benefits everyone. This vibrations, of which I am talking about , is known by different names in different cultures. These vibrations can not only be created by us but also transferred to another living being. Mastering the technique of channelling your vibrations in doing productive is the most difficult thing. And who ever does that, not only enhances his personality but also becomes successful in life. I strongly believe that what we think is going to happen with us, is ...

HATE Hate is a very strong word and shouldn’t be used as often as we do. We have to understand that hate can be very demeaning and hurtful. Hate is a strong feeling which not only can cause harm to others but also harms us on a intellectual level. Hate can lead to resentment and other negative feelings. People who are very volatile emotionally, generally end up using the this word. What causes us to say the word? We have to understand that, hate is an emotion, just like any other but it is the ultimate level to the negative pile. Let’s look at it this way, the process to getting to hating something starts from disagreement to disliking to irritation to finally hatred. So there are different sub levels within these levels also. We have to understand that, we usually skip or consider all these phases in fraction of seconds and jump to the conclusion by saying that you hate something.   What we have to consider is that before even saying the word, we can prevent us from goi...

BODY LANGUAGE Communication and body language comes hand-in-hand. Body language, as what we know, is just the tip of an iceberg, there is lot more than what just meets the eye. We don’t realise that body language is that non-verbal form of communication which not only speaks for us, but sometimes it portray more than just mere words. Body language can be an effective tool for one who knows about it. We all know a little about it, but little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. A charming personality comes from the way that person carries himself. Carrying oneself is nothing but the body language. Different regions of the world have different perceptions about each body language. Body language can be categorised into three major sections-the arms, the head and the legs body language. I must tell you that no one should believe a person on the first meet just because they have a good body language. A person can fake body language, but those people can’t hold their own pers...

Communication Since the first word ever spoken by manm the communication has evolved with the same pace as a man. Communication is nothing but expressing or conveying ones thoughts and feelings to one or many other, it can be in various forms. Communications is like that unsung hero in every life situation. Communication can be helpful or devastating depending on the different situations. It interesting how communication can affect your daily life or professional life and in either of them communication plays the most important role. Communication consists of several components and the precise combination of these components helps you to achieve success in the respective field. A lot can be read over books and internet about effective communication and one can even get a certification for being a better communicator. i have too learned about communication and its aspects but what we don’t get to know by our education system is how it effects our life as in any relationship. I...

ANGER Fall about in life with unexpected remorse and emotional break-down or failure, which is according to me just a part of life which we all face unwillingly. There is not a single person who willingly wants to fail and go down one step in the game of life. People stumble upon failure whenever they try to do something or make something, and we often have heard that our failures are the best teachers. But why do we fail? And what is that makes failure the best teacher? I bet we all know the answer but there is a little more to it than what just pleases the eye. Everyone thinks that a person failed in a particular task, only when he might have not worked hard enough for that particular task. I beg to differ because not always it is like that. Failure is an outcome of an activity done wrong or not how it should have been done. Failure also comes when a person fails to understand the situation. So what is it that makes us fail in a task? The answer lies within us and not ...

Dreams Dreaming is an action which is generally done when we sleep. Dreams are the creation of our sub-conscious mind. People tend to see things which may or may not be related at all. It’s a weird thing, but every time a experience a ‘deja-vu’, I always get a sense that I have seen it before in my dreams. I strongly believe that people can have premonitions or some sort of dreams which guide them in their real life. Dream are eccentric. But when talking about dreams or ambitions then these dreams are very much different then what we experience while we are asleep. Dreams or goals which you have are like those priceless jems which can lead you to become a successful person. I should nevertheless forget that not all dreams are approachable or valid, but sometimes we don’t realise the true potential of a dream, and quit it very soon. Just because you can’t think a way of reaching your dream position or destination, it doesn’t mean that those dreams are worthless or not...

Maturity We don’t get maturity with age, maturity is a choice. Its not something which we can inculcate within the stipulated period of time or with how many number of years we have lived. It comes with a decision, with a level of understanding of human behaviour and emotion. Maturity is something which is most required but only few have it, and those who possess it deals with less problems in life. Maturity which is also stated as adulthood is oftenly mistaken with the age. For example, if a person is of 20 years of age then he/she is expected to behave maturely. The most common statement we all must have heard in our lives during our educational era, mostly our teachers or mentors say to us, that “ behave like a mature person, you are a grown up now.” What is to be like a mature person? And does all grown ups are mature enough to be able to deal and handle every situation is a certain manner which the world sees as a “mature way”? Starting with the first area, wha...

Anger Anger, a feeling which all of us experience on a daily basis. It has become the main part of our lives. If I were to describe anger, then anger would be that feeling which makes you hit someone or destroy something. Rage or anger is the most dangerous emotion a man could express. An angry person is like a potential bomb, you never know when and on whom it may blow. And it not only destroys physically but also mentally. Today, Anger has become so prominent in our world that there are courses on anger management for people who are very aggressive and short-tempered. Being short-tempered, as we all know means that the person gets angry on every small incident. But why is that anger has become so protuberant these days?   Why is it harmful for us? And how can we overcome anger and become a peaceful being. In today’s world the main reason for our increased anger level is the over-exposure to aggressive content in social media or any other entertainment sources. We n...

DEPRESSION Depression is a state of being in which a person becomes less interested in living and also in taking part in any sort of activities. In other words he/she becomes inactive and succumbs to pains and loneliness, Many of you can connect to this if you have experienced depression of any sort. Now the question here is whether we   know what are the different kinds of depression and what causes it? For me, depression is the outcome of prolonged period of pain and state of being hurt. It’s like cancer, if not treated at its early stages, then can be fatal. But can we differentiate between being depressed or just being upset for something? That is the first thing to check when you think you are depressed. One should see whether it is just one thing which went wrong which is making you upset or it’s many things all together that causing pain in your life. And if it is depression then one should seek help. But most of the times, while being depressed we tend to s...

Lie & Truth The two best friends is the apt name for the two pillars of our life which are of the most importance. The great Lie which is always contrasted by the evergreen Truth. The perfect villain-hero combination of our lives. Lie teaches us to be creative in tough times but its never tells us that its the wrong way to deal with any situation. Whereas on the other hand, Truth reminds us that its not always about escaping from the situation. Both affects our life very differently but to some extent in a similar manner. The reason we we tell a lie or truth is the directly related to out nature and how we see any situation. Our brain tells us whether to tell what's right or what's wrong. But how does it affect our daily lives? Well, to understand this, we have to look how it affects our decisions and our behavior.  When we lie, we not only hide the information but also decrease our self-esteem. A lie can destroy whole life of yours. Lie a small word but is...

CHOICES A choice can become your epitome of character or become a disgrace of your life forever. The power of a choice is often realized when we use it and regret it later. Choice is the most important part of the life. The person we are directs the kind of choices we make. We easily categories the different types of people by just looking at the choices they make. One should not solely choose depending on what their heart says or what might look better, because there can be options which can be best. Choices depend on options and options are created by us. And we are often biased towards those options which are delusive and attractive. Hence, choosing the wrong options as most of the times the most attractive options are the wrong ones. We have to be more careful, and it’s not about the options we have it’s all about how we see any situation. A person can make mistakes by choosing what is wrong but that person has the potential in himself to change the decision he made. ...